Often times, teenagers mistake love for lust, and I think every dad there is, would strongly agree with that. I know mine would. But the question is why? Why is it so hard to distinguish the difference between the two? You would think it would be simple, emotional equals love, physical equals lust. However, it’s not that simple.
Lets be realistic, and look at the fact that a lot of high schoolers are having sex or if not that, something close. I’m going to be blunt. That makes it very easy to think you’re in love, but are you really? Now, this being said, it’s just as easy to lust towards someone that you aren’t full on sleeping with. Something as simple as an attractive person walking by can give you a lust for them. In my opinion, I think it’s way too easy to mistake love for lust, which is half the reason so many teenagers experience such heartbreak.
On the other side of things, there’s nothing to prove that teenagers aren’t capable of being in love. Yes, you’re young. Yes, you’re inexperienced. But does that mean you’re feelings are wrong? Definitely not. Teenagers love their families, friends, pets, etc. So why does everyone always think “Oh you’re a teenager you’re not in love”, as if we don’t know what love is.
I truly believe that there isn’t a single teenager out there who hasn’t been in love at least once. However, at the same time, a lot of teens mistake a crush for love. There is a huge difference between liking and loving someone.
Loving someone is putting their needs before yours. Thinking of them before making a decision. Listening to their stories. Asking about their day. Supporting their hobbies and beliefs. Love is listening. Love is compromise. Love is when you’re no longer alone. We need to distinguish the difference between love and lust because we’re ultimately hurting ourselves.